Sheikh Abdur Rahman ibn al-Jawzi رحمه الله has said that it is not possible to control one’s self (Nafs) without wisdom and planning. If the Nafs is not controlled, one will slip into immoral pleasures. If unnecessary harshness is meted out towards the Nafs on permissible things, one’s worship will be impacted upon negatively. Many are involved in different forms of excesses which result in them being neglectful of their obligations. In many instances, the rights of the parents are usurped in the ‘name of piety’ – the easiest way to achieve a perfect balance is to observe rights and stay within limits.
Hazrat Hajee Imdaadullah Makki Sahib رحمه الله has advised that we exercise a moderate approach to the treatment of the Nafs; the simple prescription is that we accustom ourselves to Mujaahadah (striving against the evil desires) while at the same time observe the rights of the Nafs.
As an observation, many people waste time in futile pursuits. They wander around aimlessly abusing the bounties of Allah Ta’ala جل جلاله. Very few value the bounty of time and secure their Aakhirah. The need is that we diligently plan our daily schedules, use our time effectively, learn our Deen so that we know what is expected of us and sit in the company of the Ahlullāh to attain wisdom and spiritual strength.